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Notes from Bonita
Frank essays for women who'd like their marriage to be a lot less polite and a lot more fun.
Roommates → Lovers · 7 min read
How to Stop Being Roommates and Start Being Lovers Again
If your marriage feels like a well-run shared apartment, here's how to bring back the flirting, attention, and heat — without a single trust fall.
Read the essay →Flirting, grown-up edition · 6 min read
What Happy Couples Know About Flirting After 40
Flirting after 40 isn't about pretending to be 25. It's about confidence, wit, and the delicious advantage of knowing exactly who you're flirting with.
Read the essay →The homework nobody assigned · 6 min read
You Studied Everything Except Your Marriage
You researched strollers, careers, and air fryers for weeks. Your marriage got whatever was left over. Here's how to treat it like it matters.
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